Topic: Women needs sisters

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her Mother.
As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter 'Don't forget your Sisters,' she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass.
'They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need Sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.
'Remember that 'Sisters' means ALL the women... your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do.'
What a funny piece of advice the young woman thought! Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile! But she listened to her Mother. She kept contact with her Sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, Sisters are the mainstays of her life. After almost 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:
THIS SAYS IT ALL:
Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........
Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you.

A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.
When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life span will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you...Or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life!
The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.
Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful.
I just did. Short and very sweet:
There are more than twenty angels in this world. Ten are peacefully sleeping on clouds. Nine are playing. And one is reading my paper at this moment.
Happy days! Stephanie Clark made me understand how important the sisters we need for each other!

Topic: G8

  This Saturday I went to my junior high school deskmate’s birthday party, he grow up as a mature guy, but still keep a pure juvenile heart, he used to be my “ deadly enemy”(he always make fun of me), but we are best friends on earth now. See, nothing is impossible.

  If you race the origin of the word“G6”, you will find a big secret about six guys who established the deeply friendship by the gambling which we could call “mah-jong”. Anymore, the new word “G8” is instead of “G6” for the beauty and playboy joining. Twofer!!!

  There is nothing more important than high school friendship, I assume you’ll make yourself nostalgic when memory the great time in high school, the guys are hysterically funny and the games are big bowl of amazing, we really enjoyed an entertaining night, we spit-swear and pinky-swear to promise we must talk the talk , walk the walk , keep friendship forever.

   It is not a rendezvous, but how could it be too damn perfect? I mean, every minute is worthy of good memory and I love every member of the “G8”, I wish we could be good friends forever.

Topic: Rush

Yesterday I gathered together with my junior high school classmates, we went to KTV to sing, have dinner, and chat with each other. Nine years have already passed since we graduated from junior high school , how quickly time rushes by!!

     There is a popular song named <<Ten Years>> that shows us a picture on many changes that can happen in ten years and I don’t know how many days I have been given to spend, but I do feel my hands are getting empty. Taking stock silently I find that more than eight thousand days have already slid away from me.

     Now, you the wise, tell me, why should our days leave us, never to return? If they had been stolen by someone, who could it be? Where could he hide them? If they had made the escape themselves, then where could they stay at the moment?

     After 10 years, I don’t know where I am, maybe here or the other side of the ocean, but wherever and whatever, the days passed never return. What I can do is to cherish the surroundings I have right now.

Topic: The Art of Living

      You know , yesterday I received the comments : You are my true love so the wind that blows through your room would be the love that I send each and every day to you carried on the wind current for thousands and thousands of miles. I'm into somebody who could say that, if you really understand the art of love , probably you know when to hold fast and when to let go , and this is also the art of living.

      We remember a beauty that faded, a love that waned. But we member with far greater pain that we did not see that beauty when it flowered, that we failed to respond with love when it was tendered. Today, as I walked from the apartment, the sunlight hit me. I looked to see whether anyone else relished the sun's golden glow, but everyone was hurrying to and fro, most with eyes fixed on the ground. Then I remembered how often I ,too, had been indifferent to the grandeur of each day, too preoccupied with petty and sometimes even mean concerns to respond from that experience as commonplace as was the experience itself.
      The art of living just like what I said above, I mean, life's gifts are precious, but we are too heedless of them. I miss last July 4th, I enjoyed the independent day and had a lot fun in the United States through that's not my country at that time. Why? Because I told myself enjoy the special minutes in your life every time , when one day I look back I will always have good memory and no regret.

Topic: True love

I haven’t written daily anymore since I was 10 years old, I remembered that a famous Asian-American author said when she was a teenager,her secret crush on her classmate caused her to write daily about the obsessed feeling. Unfortunately, her private daily was recited in public by a prankish classmate then everyone laughed at her, specially the relationship between her and the guy she loved secretly became so embarrassed, she decided to write daily in English instead of being embarrassed again. That coincident decision caused her make great achievements in writing English novel today. I begin again to write daily not because of her, because the sentence “Fundamentals are the building blocks of fun” said by Mikbail Baryshnikov(荀子)，and yesterday I was crying about a Korean TV series called “My Girl”, I can’t help bursting into tears even the second time to watch it. The hero and heroine were sick of pretending to be cousin for the developing of their secret love, but the grandfather couldn’t forgive the girl cheated him, actually the original intention she pretended to be his granddaughter for saving his sickness, keep him be happy in the rest of life. The real granddaughter lost for long time if the grandson couldn’t find her in the last moment, it would make the grandfather died with regret. We call this “white lie” or “well-meaning lie”.

I was deeply moved by the true love happened between this pair of fake cousin, they waited for two years and finally got together.

So I was wondering is the true love existed or when could we feel it around us, another love story happened in Korea as well, the guy who died in accident and his girlfriend remembered he said if one day he died, he would turn into breeze and return. So the girl made a lot pinwheel in room and opened windows whenever she was stay at home, because she was always waiting for him to return. The third story occurred in Hong Kong, the couples broken up with the guy’s cheating, it was a huge mistake he never make before and he was overcome with remorse and regretted everyday, so he started to write daily called “the time without Chang Zaixin”(the girl’s name), from No1 day to No 821 day, totally 821 days, deep down loved that girl and wish her forgiveness. The daily finally was found by the girl, but No 822 day he couldn’t write it because of the traffic accident, both of them were lawyers, he was giving some attention to the case girl asked for help when he was driving, after accident happened, he used a last piece of strength to call the girl and told her that he figured out the

point of the case she could use in court maybe great helpful. The insinuating mean was “I love you and I could do everything for you until the last minute I dead”. But he didn’t say it, just finished the conversation by saying “take care”.The daily opened his heart to the girl, I assume she would forgive him.

Right next door each star, there’s a hair between them. Why we couldn’t have a shot at being couples when both of us alive? Why we are ill-equipped in the philosophies of lost love? What is the highly-anticipated love? Are there sacrifices for a goal like pure love? And I’ve endeavored to find the answer. Right now , there is a windflaw through my room, is true love coming?

Day 6 Corning Glass Center - Niagara Falls
Depart for Washington D.C to Corning Glass Center . Here, you can see the whole process of glass making. Also, there are inexpensive and beautiful glasses for purchase. Afterwards, we will drive toward Niagara Falls , view and take pictures at the spectacular world famous Niagara Falls. The Niagara Fall consists of three falls, the Horseshoe Falls, the American Falls, and the Bridal Veil Falls. To take the Maid of the Mist boat ride

Day 7 Thousand Island - New York

第五天：紐約市 - 費城 - 華盛頓
早上出發，往荷蘭隧道經紐澤西，賓夕凡尼亞，抵達美國兩百年前的首都所在地 - "費城"，參觀獨立宮、自由鐘及歷史古鎮，用完午餐后，開車駛往美國首都華盛頓D.C.，經阿靈頓公墓，海軍陸戰隊紀念碑、林肯、杰佛遜紀念堂、華盛頓紀念碑、白宮、甘乃迪文化中心、經水門大廈，參觀世界聞名史密茲太空博物館 (如果時間許可)，最后抵達美國國會，參觀議會會堂。

第六天：康寧玻璃中心 - 尼加拉大瀑布
早上離開酒店，中途用午餐，到達聞名世界康寧玻璃中心，首先參觀十萬件玻璃精品及藝朮雕刻玻璃展出，令您嘆為觀止，再參觀工廠，觀賞各種玻璃制作，在該玻璃中心的廉價部可買到比市面便宜一半以上的玻璃家庭器皿，遊客皆大歡喜。離開康寧中心，開車駛往尼加拉瀑布區，先遊覽公羊島及三大瀑布上游，風景如畫，美不勝收，令您有意想不到的收獲。爾后，遊客先乘坐觀瀑船，繞整個美加三大瀑布（美國瀑布、新娘面紗瀑布、馬蹄瀑布），驚險刺激，似萬馬奔騰，狂風暴雨，自由參觀雄偉壯觀瀑布，攝影留念，美國境瀑布區，風景優美絕倫，再觀賞七彩瀑布夜景，約晚上返酒店休息。

第七天： 千島 - 紐約市
早餐后驅車前往被譽為[人間仙境]和[世外桃園]的千島群島并乘座遊艇暢遊千島。在這片多情而神秘的聖羅蘭河與浩翰的安大略湖交界的千島水域上， 你將領略到與瀑布風格完全迥異的獨特的風情，并帶著安靜和甜蜜的感覺，約晚上返抵紐約。
 

3月7日

韩国时间下午5点10分到达首尔仁川机场，路上吃了类似热狗的东西，我还在机场韩国民族巨幅照片留影。韩国时差晚一个小时。等待7点30分飞纽约的航班。经过13个小时的飞行从小雪纷飞的首尔到寒冷的纽约肯尼迪机场，机场里星条旗显眼可见，不同肤色的人就像牛奶巧克力一般搅拌融合，每个人脸上洋溢着微笑。坐上学校大巴已经是晚上9点30分，美国，我来了。

3月9日

一天纽约城市观光上午参观了美国自由女神像，乘船围绕女神一圈感受自由精神的氛围。但我远远观望她却没有特别感觉，可能因为我不属于美国人民。当我注视着她就无异于在看一尊普通的艺术雕塑品一样的心情，但船上荷兰女孩们的热情倒让我留下深刻印象，引无数同学争相和她们合影， 她们肆无忌惮地在船上欢歌笑语，合影时的奔放热情恐怕连美国人也要自叹不如。纽约的China Town让人有身处家乡的感觉，我们吃了一顿中餐有炒西兰花春卷煎饺蛋炒饭，老实说口味还是偏西式的，但内心已经万分满足。因为它毕竟是熟的菜，美国的蔬菜我来了两天没吃过熟的就像羊在啃草一样把它们吃完。在China Town吃饭

还遇见了不会讲中文的中国人，父母都是70年代来美国，那个青年的年龄看上去25岁左右，但是完全不会讲中文。其实，和他有相似遭遇的是我们的领队，一个蒙特克莱尔大学的中国留学生，因父母都是上海人，在家还讲些上海话，所以能听说上海话和英语，但国语就完全不行了。我在思考这难道就是ABC(America born Chinese)的发展趋势，势必有一天他们的子孙会完全忘记母语，在美国的这块热土上，只有英语是他们赖以生存的语言。下午我们去了联合国总部参观，但深深觉得世界的和平仅仅靠联合国来维护是远远不够的。

3月11日

昨晚美国时间调整为夏令时，现在比北京时间晚整整12个小时，不愧称为夏令时，因为今早出门明显感觉到升温，阳光暖阳阳地照在身上。雪还未完全融化，然而雪融化了便是春天，因为春天她说来就来。一天的纽约之旅在春的提前召唤下又展开了，上午参观了大都会艺术博物馆（The Metropolitan Museum of Art），中国馆的展品之精美让人叹为观止，但美国人早就声明若国家政府无力保护本国文物，当由美国人来保护孰不退还。下午登高洛克菲罗中心（Rockefller Center Tour）眺望纽约无限风光，此乃以大亨洛克菲罗命名的大楼，当初正是他捐赠给如今建造联合国大厦的这块地皮，登上67层楼的电梯特色有二：一是速度快，二是电梯天花板呈透明色且滚动播放声音影像。稍后，参观了NBC电视台(National Broadcast Company)为游客准备的特色游，这是一家历史悠久的电视台，诞生了许多知名节目和艺人、主持等。如广受欢迎的《Friends》等，特色游出了向游客介绍NBC的古往今来的历史成绩，还有邀请游客客串主持和天气波报员，录制一小短节目娱乐广大游客，形成了游客的互动效果非常让人满意。晚上我们驱车路过了Herald Square和Times Square，顺便在Hoboken解决了晚餐，这是一个让人有身处欧洲小镇的街区，不见美式的张扬热情，而洋溢着淡泊宁静，逛进一家Natural Food Supermarket ，酸奶、燕麦面饼和着隔壁麦当劳的一碗蔬菜牛肉汤成了我在美国的第四顿晚餐。

3月13日3月13日凌晨3点半我在睡梦中被刺耳的警报声惊醒，是火警拉响了！当时第一反应是确认一下情况属实还是恶作剧，打开房门见中国人多探头张望西方人早已鱼贯而行，可见911的影响已经深入美国人心中让他们形成了良好的秩序。再思索实则是中西方思维方式生活习惯不同，中国人往往见风再使舵，三思再后行，多随波逐流。西方人习惯遵循秩序崇尚独立，少从众心态。在逃生时有组织有纪律上西方人无疑略胜一筹，而在中国不缺乏逃生时让领导先走群众垫后的新闻，这在西方是绝对不可能出现的。幸好虚惊一场，但美国人临危时的组织有序着实让人佩服，总台又广播了一遍告知大家一切安全，乃误会一场。望着警车离去的倒影，我拉上了窗帘继续睡觉

智慧让她更美丽

          ——访问上海市公关新星亚军赵昕雅

11月1日，“青春世博”上海市第二届“公关新星”大赛，在上海广电大厦演播厅举行了最后的决赛。上海师范大学人文与传播学院比较文学专业研一学生赵昕雅获得了亚军。在访问她之前，一直也在好奇，她究竟是传说中的公主还是童话里的灰姑娘呢？第一眼看到她，就感叹果然是传说里的美女。是不是因为有了这样一副天使的面孔，所以去参加这样一场比赛呢？她的回答让人感动：“我是为了责任，我想假如我就是上师大的一件产品，那么我就要以很高的质量，去打响上师大的品牌“。当时作为上海师大公共关系协会学生分会的会长，赵昕雅就是带着这样的责任感去参加比赛，也许当时的她也没有想到今天会达到这样的高峰，这个把成功定义为“只要有一天能做自己喜欢做的事情”。的平凡女孩用她的智慧赢的了美丽和成功。

以下记者称为J赵昕雅称为Z

J：第一眼看到你就觉的你很漂亮，你觉得在比赛中美丽帮了你的忙吗？有句话说美丽是上天给女人的最好的礼物，你认为呢？

Z：谢谢。（笑）我觉得并不是这样，因为这次比赛并不是一场选美比赛，如果是这样的话，那还有很多比我更漂亮的选手。（笑）很多人对公关这个词不很理解，其实它的意思是：信息沟通，塑造形象，和关系协调。我倒是觉得是我回答更具有参考价值。在比赛中，有一个环节是中英文提问环节，我由于太紧张了，在中文回答完之后，没等外国评委提问，我就下去了，后来我用机智的回答化解了尴尬，我用英语告诉评委，因为他太英俊了，所以我紧张了。（笑）我想我是用我的微笑和智慧化解了场上的尴尬气氛，也成功地完成了一次人和人的 沟通。

至于美丽，当然能拥有是很幸运的一件事，在这个眼球经济的时代，做一个美女可以更容易得到别人的好感，但是美丽也是一把双刃剑，美丽的人也更容易招来别人的嫉妒和不认同，因为别人会认为美女更容易获得成功。所以我认为关键是摆正心态，用内涵来烘托美貌，而不是让美貌掩盖了你的内涵。

J：得到亚军之后，会不会觉得比赛还有一些遗憾呢？如果发挥的更好也许可以得到冠军？

Z：不会，其实开始并不是为了自己去参加这样一场比赛的，当时我想假如我就是上师大的一件产品，那么我就要以很高的质量，去打响上师大的品牌，也许别人和我的想法不一样，但是我从为想过要一夜成名或者因为这场比赛而改变我的人生轨迹，我是个平凡的人，现在也一样，该干什么还是干什么。只要有家人和朋友的认可，我就觉得很满足了，他们是我最重要的人。我并不需要靠比赛和得奖来得到认同，就象钱钟书，他虽然也从来没有得过奖但是他还是被大家认可。

J听说你在得奖之后就会参加2010年的世博会志愿者了，想必你以前也做过其他志愿者吧，感觉如何呢，是不是象有些人认为的纯粹是在浪费时间呢？

Z：不仅不是这样，而且还恰恰相反呢。我在做志愿者的时候，曾经照顾过一位孤老，每次我去他家，他都会教我雕水仙花，我觉得很感动。因为本来应该是我来照顾他的，而他却给予我更多。其实，以前我们一直有个误区，因为觉得他们可怜，所以需要我们施舍的帮助。但是我现在认为，他们需要的是精神价值的共鸣，我在帮助他们的时候想的是：我认可你们的价值和劳动成果。我觉得在这些活动里我收获了如何尊重他人，看到了人生的另外一面的意义和价值。

J：看来你对上海师大你的母校有很深的感情，听说你还在兼职做辅导员，也是因为这个原因吗？我想以你的条件应该可以有更广阔的选择。

Z：这是其中一个原因，我觉得校园恬淡的生活更适合现在我的状态，愉快地生活更重要。不过一直觉得将来的事情没有人可以预料，而我只是觉得自己应该很清楚什么时候应该做什么事情。而且只要你是真正有才华的人，是个有心人，那你会发现机会到处都有。

J：知道你现在在读研究生，现在社会上好象对高学历的女性往往抱以异样的眼光，你是怎么看的呢？

Z：虽然我是直升研究生的，但是首先我认为我读研的目的是希望能再多学习一些知识，在大四的时候，突然意识到也许自己这辈子再也没有机会读书了，心里很难过，比以前任何时候都更想读书。当然当时也有很多很好的工作机会。但是觉得自己的知识框架还不完整，还需要再给自己充充电。至于社会上的一些偏见，也许我个人无法改变，但是这些对我来说并不重要，我自己给成功下的定义就是：有一天可以做自己想做的事情。

J：那你一定听过渔夫和商人的故事吧，你和渔夫的理论似乎有些相似啊。

Z是这样的，我认为渔夫既然想晒太阳并且做到了，那么此时的他就是成功的。也许当他想吃顿大餐的时候他是失败的，不过不要紧，成功本来就是相对的。关键看你怎么看待它。

采访接近结束的时候，出于女人的天性忍不住问起赵昕雅的美丽心得，她告诉我：美丽的心情造就美丽的人。女人更重要的是她的内涵。一个人要有肚量去承担不能改变的事情，要有勇气去做可以改变的事情，要有智慧去分辨以上两种事情。果然，她的智慧使她更美丽。（张冰沁）

采访手记：可以采访一个美丽的女人是幸运的，可是采访一个充满智慧的女人则是幸福的，因为她的智慧不仅给她自己带来了幸福，也给身边的人，甚至是作为过客的我以启迪和思考，来获得幸福。像谁说过的：只有聪明的女人不会老。